Increase The Chance Of Dating Chinese Women When Travelling Solo

Assuming you live to be 80 years old, the chance of you getting struck by lightning is about 1 in 15,300. Which is pretty low, all things considered. The chances of you finding love while you’re in China may not be as low, but there’s no guarantee that you’ll find love even after booking a group tour that’s designed to help you find love.

That’s not to say that you’re not going to find love. You definitely could. You could meet a woman, hit it off with her, and then have your fairytale ending. There’s just nothing in the world that is going to guarantee that that’s the scenario that plays out.

But there are a few things that you can do in order to maximize the chance that you get your happy ending.

Lay The Groundwork

The first thing a builder does when they need to make a new building is to lay the foundation for it. A solid foundation leads to a solid structure that will last for generations.

Relationships work the same way. If you want to have a Chinese girlfriend, then you can certainly hop on a plane and hope for the best. Or you can be smart about it and plan ahead and lay a foundation for a relationship.

You can do this by signing up for a dating service. From there, you’ll be able to connect with women from a lot of different countries. Once you connect with them, you can talk to them, maybe even date them online.

Then you can fly out to their country and then you can date her in real life as well. At that point, you’ll have an established connection, which can be more helpful for a guy looking for love than taking the cold approach.

Also, if you establish a relationship with someone before flying off to China, then make it a point to bring a gift with you. Nothing elaborate, just something that conveys the depth of your feelings for her.

Your Attitude

If you’re going to Shenzhen, this is what you need to know about Chinese women: they’re pretty demure and conservative. Social norms in China mean that women are more prone to traditional gender roles.

Going in loud and aggressive is not going to win you any favors. If you want to score brownie points with the local women in Shenzhen, then you’re going to have to be a gentleman of the highest order and treat with as much respect as she is deserving of.

You may be used to certain things on a first date, but Chinese women are a little bit more modest than their western counterparts, so you may want to lower your expectations. You may get a peck on the cheek, but you shouldn’t expect more than that and possibly a little bit of hand-holding.

Your Dress

There’s no real easy way to say it, so here it goes — the economic boom that China’s been experiencing in the last decade or so has given rise to a middle class that has a voracious appetite for luxury Western goods.

The Chinese consumer is so hungry for Western luxury that China has become the biggest market for luxury goods such as watches and clothes.

But don’t fret if you can’t deck yourself out in the finest bespoke suits topped off with a handmade tourbillon. Just make sure that you’re presentable.

Sure, there may be a few women who won’t give you the time of the day because you’re not wearing the finest silks, but you don’t want to be around people like that anyway, let alone date them.

Your Communication

If you’re a western man, you probably speak English. You may know bits and pieces of another language. But the thing about Shenzhen is that it’s a port city where they speak a wide variety of Chinese dialects; Cantonese, Mandarin, Hokkien, Teochew, and various others.

Your English might not get you far, so you’re going to want to pick a few phrases in the various dialects if you want to have a good time.

Do Your Research

Make a list of the things you do at home and then think of the places in which you do those things. You could probably walk from your house to a number of them with your eyes closed because you’re so familiar with them.

That’s not going to be the case when you’re in Shenzhen. Not only do they not speak the same language as you, Shenzhen is one of the most populated cities in the world with estimates varying between 12 and 20 million people living in the city at any given time and is one of the busiest ports when it comes to tonnage.

So it’s going to be a lot different than what you’re used to. But there are a few things that you can do to fill the gaps in your knowledge.

And it would probably be helpful to bring a map with you in case your phone runs out of power or doesn’t get service. At least you might be able to find your way around town.

Another thing that you should do is to familiarize yourself with the public transit system. Knowing the bus and train routes that will get you back to your hotel can save you a lot of anxiety.

Life is a series of random chances. Every single day, people live their lives and those lives are subject to random chance. Maybe someone gets crapped on by a bird. Maybe someone wakes up with a stomach bug that just comes out of nowhere.

But sometimes, that randomness can lead to love — the power of serendipity if you will. Life is full of chance and you need to make sure you maximize what you get so that you can build the life that you want. If you want to fall in love, you have to do everything in your power to make it happen.